Are you complicating the process of getting back together with your girlfriend or wife? Reuniting with the woman that you love is important to you. You're emotionally stressed. Did you know that your attitude has more to do with your success or failure with your ex than any other aspect of your life. Your ex is judging you by your attitude and she might not even know it. Forget about choosing the perfect words to say. Your attitude as a man is what will move her to fall in love with you again. Your self-confidence and strength as a man is what will move her and make her feel attracted to you.
Most guys make the mistake of falling apart when their girlfriend or wife leaves them. Chances are that she was thinking about breaking up with you for some time before she had the courage to actually end the relationship. Perhaps you gave her a reason to leave. The reason probably wasn't what she told you it was. The reason that she left has more to do with a lack of respect for you as a man than anything she told you before she left you. It's your job now to show her that you're a man. This means no crying, begging or pleading for a second chance. This means that you can not tell her that you love her until she tells you that she loves you first. This means no contacting her or annoying her with requests to talk or see each other until you have your life straightened out and you are strong again.
Your attitude towards your ex girlfriend or your wife is everything. Although this may sound difficult for you, having the attitude that you are willing to simply walk away is how you must be perceived. If you see her and she starts to yell at you or act disrespectful towards you, simply walk away. She is not a part of your life anymore. She is not your girlfriend or your wife and you will not tolerate this kind of treatment from her. Tell her so, turn your back to her and walk away. You might be surprised that she will come running after you. It happens and if she is accustomed to you standing there and taking her abuse then this will be a huge change for her. She will respect you for this and she will begin to see you differently.
Being cool and calm in the face of adversity and reigning in your emotions is important. Resist the temptation to argue with her or show any sign that you're still upset about the break up. Your new attitude must be positive and optimistic. Your new life is filled with possibilities. You are happy and looking forward to what life has in store for you. You are in the process of rebuilding your life. You have a direction and you have goals and dreams for what you wish to accomplish in life. You might even feel happy about the freedom that this break up has given you. No matter what, you are happy because women find men that are happy and optimistic about life very attractive. If you find yourself confronted with negative emotions or you become upset over something, remember that you must be happy at all costs. If you feel completely overwhelmed, find a place where you can be alone for five minutes to regain your composure. Tell yourself that things will change and that your life is getting better and better all the time. Remind yourself that you must appear happy and in control at all times. Men are capable of such strength and you are a real man.
Control in a relationship or which partner wears the pants is always a struggle. Women often test a man and if you look back on events in your relationship you will agree that this is true. Now that your girlfriend or wife has left you, she may still attempt to test you or tell you what to do. Take control back and passively teach her that you are the man and that you'll make the decisions. She really doesn't want to make the decisions in the relationship. No woman does. It is all a test to see how strong you are as a man. The next time she attempts to exert her authority in your life by stating her opinion or actually telling you what you should do, make your own decision. For instance, let's say that you agree to meet and she suggests a time and place. Instead of agreeing, change the time and place to one more convenient for you. Even if you have to create an excuse, taking control in this small matter will help her to see that things have changed in your life. You're not trying to be difficult. Her suggestion simply does not suit you and you are making a decision.
Your self-confidence has probably taken a beating since she left but this doesn't mean that it is going to take months or years to rebuild your confidence. For you, as a man, your self-confidence is apparent in how you carry yourself. A man's self-confidence can be seen without words and it is shown in your posture, the kind of words you use and your body language, in general. Your facial expression shows that you are cheerful and without worry. You stand tall without slouching and you fear nothing. If you struggle with your confidence and self-esteem, work on it by telling yourself that you're strong. You can accomplish anything that you set your mind to. This includes getting the woman that you love back in your life. The next time you see your ex girlfriend or wife you want her to feel that there is something different about you. You want to exude confidence and an air that you don't have a trouble in the world. Even if she is evil towards you, it doesn't bother you. Even is she is with another man, it doesn't matter to you because you know that eventually she is going to fall for you and come crawling back to you with tears in her eyes.
Being in love isn't easy. Often genuinely nice guys make the mistake of thinking that by treating a woman well and doing everything that she asks, she will fall in love with us. We want to show our love by putting her first. We care for her more than we do our own body. For us, this equals true love. For a woman, instinctively, this is a sign of weakness. Putting yourself first and being strong is the only way to regain the respect and love that the woman of your dreams had for you. Avoid the temptation to go back to groveling or begging her for another chance. Push forward and understand that you have nothing to lose by standing up for yourself in a passive-aggressive manner. You don't have to be mean. You don't have to argue with her. You simply have to be the man that she loves and respects. Be happy and full of optimism and things will begin to change. Her feelings for you will begin to change. She will wonder what is going on with you. She will become curious and soon you will find that she has a renewed respect and love for you. You are worthy of being loved and respected and you will get your ex girlfriend or wife back.
Most guys make the mistake of falling apart when their girlfriend or wife leaves them. Chances are that she was thinking about breaking up with you for some time before she had the courage to actually end the relationship. Perhaps you gave her a reason to leave. The reason probably wasn't what she told you it was. The reason that she left has more to do with a lack of respect for you as a man than anything she told you before she left you. It's your job now to show her that you're a man. This means no crying, begging or pleading for a second chance. This means that you can not tell her that you love her until she tells you that she loves you first. This means no contacting her or annoying her with requests to talk or see each other until you have your life straightened out and you are strong again.
Your attitude towards your ex girlfriend or your wife is everything. Although this may sound difficult for you, having the attitude that you are willing to simply walk away is how you must be perceived. If you see her and she starts to yell at you or act disrespectful towards you, simply walk away. She is not a part of your life anymore. She is not your girlfriend or your wife and you will not tolerate this kind of treatment from her. Tell her so, turn your back to her and walk away. You might be surprised that she will come running after you. It happens and if she is accustomed to you standing there and taking her abuse then this will be a huge change for her. She will respect you for this and she will begin to see you differently.
Being cool and calm in the face of adversity and reigning in your emotions is important. Resist the temptation to argue with her or show any sign that you're still upset about the break up. Your new attitude must be positive and optimistic. Your new life is filled with possibilities. You are happy and looking forward to what life has in store for you. You are in the process of rebuilding your life. You have a direction and you have goals and dreams for what you wish to accomplish in life. You might even feel happy about the freedom that this break up has given you. No matter what, you are happy because women find men that are happy and optimistic about life very attractive. If you find yourself confronted with negative emotions or you become upset over something, remember that you must be happy at all costs. If you feel completely overwhelmed, find a place where you can be alone for five minutes to regain your composure. Tell yourself that things will change and that your life is getting better and better all the time. Remind yourself that you must appear happy and in control at all times. Men are capable of such strength and you are a real man.
Control in a relationship or which partner wears the pants is always a struggle. Women often test a man and if you look back on events in your relationship you will agree that this is true. Now that your girlfriend or wife has left you, she may still attempt to test you or tell you what to do. Take control back and passively teach her that you are the man and that you'll make the decisions. She really doesn't want to make the decisions in the relationship. No woman does. It is all a test to see how strong you are as a man. The next time she attempts to exert her authority in your life by stating her opinion or actually telling you what you should do, make your own decision. For instance, let's say that you agree to meet and she suggests a time and place. Instead of agreeing, change the time and place to one more convenient for you. Even if you have to create an excuse, taking control in this small matter will help her to see that things have changed in your life. You're not trying to be difficult. Her suggestion simply does not suit you and you are making a decision.
Your self-confidence has probably taken a beating since she left but this doesn't mean that it is going to take months or years to rebuild your confidence. For you, as a man, your self-confidence is apparent in how you carry yourself. A man's self-confidence can be seen without words and it is shown in your posture, the kind of words you use and your body language, in general. Your facial expression shows that you are cheerful and without worry. You stand tall without slouching and you fear nothing. If you struggle with your confidence and self-esteem, work on it by telling yourself that you're strong. You can accomplish anything that you set your mind to. This includes getting the woman that you love back in your life. The next time you see your ex girlfriend or wife you want her to feel that there is something different about you. You want to exude confidence and an air that you don't have a trouble in the world. Even if she is evil towards you, it doesn't bother you. Even is she is with another man, it doesn't matter to you because you know that eventually she is going to fall for you and come crawling back to you with tears in her eyes.
Being in love isn't easy. Often genuinely nice guys make the mistake of thinking that by treating a woman well and doing everything that she asks, she will fall in love with us. We want to show our love by putting her first. We care for her more than we do our own body. For us, this equals true love. For a woman, instinctively, this is a sign of weakness. Putting yourself first and being strong is the only way to regain the respect and love that the woman of your dreams had for you. Avoid the temptation to go back to groveling or begging her for another chance. Push forward and understand that you have nothing to lose by standing up for yourself in a passive-aggressive manner. You don't have to be mean. You don't have to argue with her. You simply have to be the man that she loves and respects. Be happy and full of optimism and things will begin to change. Her feelings for you will begin to change. She will wonder what is going on with you. She will become curious and soon you will find that she has a renewed respect and love for you. You are worthy of being loved and respected and you will get your ex girlfriend or wife back.
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