Saturday, March 22, 2014

Heeding The Signs That You Might Have A Bad Marriage

By Herbert Zabala


When you're in a bad marriage, it can be as painful as getting a root canal or open heart surgery. Marriages that are good are difficult enough already to cultivate because all married couples go through good days and bad days, ups and downs in their lives together.

Yet, a lot of married couples choose to stick with a bad situation for a variety of reasons. Many of them do not even realize that their problems are serious. You would think that if you are in a bad marriage, you would know it. However, that is not always the case.

It goes without saying that a lot of married couples will try to work through the tough times for a number of reasons. However, some people who are involved in a marriage that is simply not good for them will often have a hard time even realizing it.

Do not ignore what is happening with your marriage. It is incredibly scary to think about being alone or to come to the conclusion that your marriage is going to be a statistic. You may be worried about your children or how the rest of your family will react to your failing marriage.

Some of the signs of a marriage in trouble include the lack of affection, intimacy and communication. There may be even abuse physically and verbally. If either the husband or the wife make excuses to not be at home all the time, that is a signal that something is wrong. With no communication, problems cannot be solved. You have to recognize and accept what the problem is, then solve it together.

Some of the signs that you could be involved in a bad marriage could include everything from no intimacy or affection to little or no communication between partners. In more severe cases, you will often see a relationship where there is a lot of verbal and even physical abuse.

People hang on to the hope that they can save their marriage. They wait years and years, then finally they seek therapy or counseling. More than fifty percent of couples who seek counseling are able to save their marriage.

The unfortunate news is that only about one percent of married couples actually seek counseling. Maybe you know what the problem is but you fear admitting it. A counselor can help you bring out the truth and offer advice that can help.

If you have gone to counseling and you still do not see any good results coming out of it, then the chances are that you are holding onto something that may be too far gone to repair.

It may be hard to talk about your problems, but the only alternative is to suffer in silence. You can fix your marriage, but you have to be willing to work at it and to communicate openly and honestly with your partner.

You don't have to be embarrassed about your situation and not talk about it. When there is love, respect, and a commitment to seek solutions, a bad marriage can be saved. You have to first be honest with yourself and make a decision if the marriage is worth saving. This decision is up to you to make.




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