Saturday, September 7, 2013

How To Get A Girlfriend Without Stress Or Anxiety

By Leah Dry


Are you wondering how to get a girlfriend if you're fat? Well, I have good news for you. If you are overweight, then you should not worry about it because still you can get a girlfriend and she doesn't have to be fat as you are. Surely, being slim is a good thing but having awesome personality is even better. Women are more attracted to men's character than their muscular shape. So read on and discover the stunning secrets to get beautiful girlfriends even if you're fat.

She, on the other hand, isn't so swayed by looks. She needs somebody with personality, determination, and charisma. She can't tell by looking at you've got these or not. She can't even tell by talking to you, because you can fake a lot of this stuff with practice.That means if you accept her based only on her looks, the first few dates is going to be like a job interview. And she's interviewing you. This doesn't put you in a winning position.

But you can easily flip the switch. How? Keep reading.You need to have just as many requirements, based on her personality, as she does. She's got to have several things about her personality that take a while to find out. You can't accept her based only on a ten minute conversation.Think of going on a job interview. If they only talked to you for five minutes and hired you, you'd think it was a pretty crummy job. Especially if the questions were basic.On the other hand, if you interviewed at a company and you had to go through several interviews, you'd think it was a pretty good company to work for.

When you talk to her, you need to be that good company to work for. You've got to have high standards. You've got to make sure she's intelligent, kind, responsible and dependable. You can only find these out after a few dates.Am I suggesting that you avoid having sex for few dates? If you're looking for a good relationship with a solid woman, that's exactly what I'm suggesting.Why is this crucial? The male mind is easily confused by sex. We have sex with a girl, and suddenly she's perfect. We'll con ourselves into anything if we think it's going to get us laid again and again.This is one of those paradoxes. But here comes the best part. If you have extremely high standards, and make them qualify to you, then quality women will start chasing you, instead of the other way around.

When you're single, and sexually frustrated, your mind can play some pretty nasty tricks on you. For one, you might start thinking that you'll never meet somebody. If you aren't careful, this can turn into a vicious, self fulfilling prophecy that will keep you lonely forever.But realize this important fact: There's nothing about reality that is keeping you in your present state. There is no conspiracy among females, the world isn't against you. The Bilderberg group doesn't meet every year in secret to keep you from getting laid.

The problem with the first one is that most guys have no idea how to attract a woman and if by sheer chance they do attract a woman it's usually not the type of woman the guy wanted to attract. Most guys need to learn how to attract women and more importantly they need to learn how to attract the right kind of woman for them.

The problem with the second strategy, seducing women is you need to know how to attract a woman before she will let you seduce her. So hereby lies the problem how do you get a girlfriend quickly and easily by attracting the right type of women to seduce?Well I have come up with a way you can speed up that process rapidly and greatly improve your odds. The first I am going to assume two things the first one is you have a mouth and the second is that you are starting completely from scratch when it comes to learning how to attract women.

The first step is to decide what you want and to define your purpose. When you create intent suddenly all your interactions have a lot more meaning. I suggest you have an end goal in mind, it might be inviting all the women you meet each week or each month to a party or event of some kind (it doesn't matter how big or small).Then comes the next step, that helps trigger attraction. You want to create social proof. Social proof basically means the social cues that people give each other determine the way people act. So for example if you have several attractive women around you then it is going to make a new woman think it's acceptable to be seen around you and ultimately sleep with you.

Whenever you go out "in the field" make sure to have that card with you. Not because you'll need to take it out and check, just to remind you that when it comes to finding a girlfriend, being attractive isn't good enough. Sure, if she's hot that's a good start. But you've got to talk to her and see if she meets your criteria.

To create social proof I recommend you start inviting all the attractive single women you interact with during the week to the same party or venue. Not women you are currently sleeping with or dating, rather colleagues, friends and potential suitors you are pursuing. What is great about this is it fast tracks your dating life and is a lot of fun in the process. It also creates the illusion of scarcity which makes you appear more desirable to a woman as there are several women and only one of you. Your time is scarce and there is only one of you and multiple women completing for your attention. While women might complain about guys like this to their nice guy friends but the truth is they secretly love the challenge of pursuing men and often end up competing with other women for them.

The easiest way to get phone numbers and dates if you are just getting started is to just walk up and ask if they are single, then talk for a while and then say you have to go and invite them to a party or social gathering of some kind. Do this with all the women you meet and invite them to the same venue. If you talk to enough women you might want to create two separate nights. They might even bring their friends along which gives you even more women to choose from. You can even tell women that you are looking for that special someone and that if they aren't it you'd love to still be friends and maybe she'll know or bring someone who might fit what you are looking for.

Be yourself. If you try to be Brad Pitt, you will fail miserably. You will be yourself if you think you are a treasure, and only if you think you are one will any girl think the same. There is something very refreshing about a real, honest man.

No man alive has ever had 100 percent success with women. Not even Sam Malone. So, how is any advice going to give you the know how to get a girlfriend after divorce? Some of the advice works for some people, but not all advice works for all people. The trick is to find the things that work, implement those things, fine tune when necessary, and discard those things when they no longer work.

The only way to find the bits of advice that works is to get out and ask women for a date. You will no doubt get many no's but that is not the worst that can happen. Being totally ignored is probably the worst that can happen. The more you ask the more yes's you will get.

Give her space. Don't be too aggressive, in other words. Touch her lightly, but not too much. Show that you respect her and her personal space. This will draw her in. It is an eternal dance, remember, and if you step forward too much, you will step on her toes and she will not be too pleased. Then it will turn into a story of how I lost that woman within five minutes!Congratulations! You have the formula for how to get a woman in one day. Now, once you get her, what are you going to do with her?! We hope you have it all figured out! Good luck!




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