Friday, November 29, 2013

Magic Of Making Up

By Vickie York


Before you can ever even think of trying to get your ex back you need to end the doubt inside your own mind. Before you can even consider talking to your girlfriend about getting back together or even start spending time with her you need to eliminate the biggest stumbling block that stands in your way of getting her back. That stumbling block is your own doubts and insecurities.

Even though it's perfectly normal to worry and feel down about your breakup, if you're serious about getting her back you need to get tough with yourself.

I know this sounds strange but there is a big difference between loving someone and wanting to posess them. Loving your ex boyfriend means that you want the best for him and you want him to be happy. You can still love him without even seeing him again. You can close your eyes and think of him and wish that good things happen in his life. You can remember good times you had and be happy for the time that you had together. Loving him doesn't require that he tell you that he loves you or for him to even like you. If you love him you simply love him.

Realizing how doubtful you are is the first step towards taking care of this problem. Realizing that you have bad thoughts inside your head and that even though you want to be positive and optimistic about everything, you still have doubts in your mind is a good first step. Instead, remember the fact that your ex was in love with you not too long ago. These feelings and emotions don't just go away. Deep down inside there is a piece of her heart that still beats for you. She might not be in love with how things were going in your relationship but she loved you and she does still love you.

Sometimes by simply loving someone we can actually attract them back into our life in a way that no amount of convincing or talking ever could. By just loving your ex boyfriend you can have peace about your feelings because they don't require any validation or reciprocation. By loving your boyfriend in your heart and wanting the best for him, even if that means him not being with you for a period of time because your emotions and desires to posess him scared him away, can bring him back. By backing off and just loving him you can bring him back.

Nourish your dream and make sure that you spend some time each day thinking about how you want things to be in spite of the current situation is important. Meditating, visualizing and dreaming about the exact scenarios that you want to take place is helpful. Be positive and optimistic about your chances of getting back together. Where will you go once your ex comes back? How will it feel to experience that first kiss? What will the holidays be like?

Spend a little time every day daydreaming about what it's going to be like to get her back. Think about how it's going to feel to have her back in your life. How do you want it to happen? Will she start calling you or texting you and eventually she will start being around you more often or will it all happen in an instant? Will she just show up at your door and want to get back together? It's all up to you. It's your dream and those thoughts will help you get through the tough moments and enable you to gain the confidence that you need to win your girlfriend back.




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