Imagine that you have dated a very special person to you for a few months and you assume that he feels the same soul mate type connection that you do. Then you bring up the question about the future of your relationship and he stalls and says nothing. You feel as though you have brought up a taboo subject because he's pulled back. You wonder if he will ever be ready to do the big 'c' word.
Men are heavily influenced by your acceptance or rejection and he wasn't anticipating you to be the one to bring commitment up. He might be the type who just hasn't thought about it yet or hasn't opened up to you even though he has been thinking about it for quite some time. He doesn't know if you will accept or reject him which could be the main cause of the reason for him not bringing it up. Below are some tips that will help you put that magical spell on him to take the relationship to the next step.
1. Timing is everything - If you are going to bring up "forever" doing it while driving, watching television or online is probably not going to be conducive to getting the response you want. Pick a quiet moment when there are no distractions, no schedules or time frames, just the two of you and ask him why the two of you can't be like this forever.
2. Be aware of your body language - Nothing tells all like bad body language. Your body language has so much information in it that you may not be aware of. Folded arms across your chest suggests 'closed' and defensive.
3. Be honest - Now that you have brought it up and he's responding like a deer in the headlights, it is time for you to let him digest the issue. It is also time to really be honest with him about how you feel in the relationship with him. This is when he may really start to open up and be truthful about what he fears most about commitment. It could be that he was the victim in a breakup and was very hurt by it. Now is your big opportunity to make him know how much he really means to you.
4. The time is right - Even if it turns out that he is unready, unwilling or unable to give you the answer you were hoping for, at the very least, you can make a realistic decision whether to stay with things as they are or move on to find that special spiritual link that your heart calls for.
Once you have the feelings that he is Mr. Right and he has told you how much you mean to him, it feels like a magical connection. Committing to another person and vice versa, can almost feel like the earth revolving around the sun - truly magical.
Men are heavily influenced by your acceptance or rejection and he wasn't anticipating you to be the one to bring commitment up. He might be the type who just hasn't thought about it yet or hasn't opened up to you even though he has been thinking about it for quite some time. He doesn't know if you will accept or reject him which could be the main cause of the reason for him not bringing it up. Below are some tips that will help you put that magical spell on him to take the relationship to the next step.
1. Timing is everything - If you are going to bring up "forever" doing it while driving, watching television or online is probably not going to be conducive to getting the response you want. Pick a quiet moment when there are no distractions, no schedules or time frames, just the two of you and ask him why the two of you can't be like this forever.
2. Be aware of your body language - Nothing tells all like bad body language. Your body language has so much information in it that you may not be aware of. Folded arms across your chest suggests 'closed' and defensive.
3. Be honest - Now that you have brought it up and he's responding like a deer in the headlights, it is time for you to let him digest the issue. It is also time to really be honest with him about how you feel in the relationship with him. This is when he may really start to open up and be truthful about what he fears most about commitment. It could be that he was the victim in a breakup and was very hurt by it. Now is your big opportunity to make him know how much he really means to you.
4. The time is right - Even if it turns out that he is unready, unwilling or unable to give you the answer you were hoping for, at the very least, you can make a realistic decision whether to stay with things as they are or move on to find that special spiritual link that your heart calls for.
Once you have the feelings that he is Mr. Right and he has told you how much you mean to him, it feels like a magical connection. Committing to another person and vice versa, can almost feel like the earth revolving around the sun - truly magical.
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