Saturday, December 21, 2013

Tips To Avoid A Bad Licensed Marriage And Family Therapist

By Harriett Crosby


One of the red flags that people should pay attention to when hiring a licensed marriage and family therapist is when the latter behaves unethically. This might cover from having romantic interest to giving sexual advances. Some might also ignore the set confidentiality standards and emergency protocols for this work.

Another flag that should alert people is when this counselor provides those recommendations that do not fit well with their client's beliefs or values. A good professional will provide recommendations that actually work within a person's value system. If it is in conflict, then it is better to find someone else to take care of the problem.

It is only normal for a client to have numerous questions they want to ask to the said counselor. The red flag at this point is when the counselor actually dodges questions that should have been easily answered. One should also see to it that the questions are not unreasonable too. If one asks a reasonable question, they can get satisfactory answers too.

Determine whether the said professional actually over-shares or not. Over-sharing means that this professional shares too much of their own personal life. They just draw the attention to themselves and potentially pulls their clients into their own pace. Remember that a professional disclosing something is meant for helping them.

There may be instances for people to feel worse when they go through the sessions. However, it should still be fine if this happens just every now and then. It will be another matter if the said feeling lingers every after session, though. If this is a regular occurrence, it is better to look for another counselor who can handle the said session without making the clients feel bad for something.

The person might end up feeling judged, shamed, and emotionally unsafe when they are going through the said session. It will feel really bad if the said professional seems like to be holding a magnifying glass over the couple's issues all the time. Look for another professional since this is not healthy at all. They should set up healthy boundaries for themselves.

It is surely difficult for people to deal with a lousy listener too. Even if the said professional does not really remember every detail of the session, at least they should listen to the key facts about the couple and their issues. If people have to continuously repeat what they had said in a previous session, then better look for another professional.

Try to look for a professional who does not disrupt the sessions. It is very unprofessional for the counselor to interrupt the session just because of a single phone call or text message. Unless it is an emergency, that will be inexcusable. Also, it is very unprofessional if the said counselor actually falls asleep while listening to their client's issues or talks.

A professional's instinct is very sharp. No matter who it is, they should learn how to trust in their own instincts. If the person wants to look for a good licensed marriage and family therapist, they should make sure to listen to what their guts tell them.




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